How do you do it?

So Perry is at daycare, he is over 1 years old, so it is time for me to work.
The job hunt is going slowly and it is really a painful process right now. It doesn't help that the economy is still bad either. I am really dreading the fact that another chapter of my life will start and I would rather avoid it as long as possible. But of course that is irrational and won't happen.

The question is "How do you do it?"
I do not understand how a woman would WANT to take up the responsibilty and work full time and have a family and a happy husband. Kudos to the women who do all 3 and make it work, but honestly, no one ever tells you this when you are growing up. All they say is have a great career, then you'll meet prince charming... and you will have a beautiful family. NO ONE ever tells you the downfalls that come with it. All the burden that lays on your shoulder as a woman. I never thought I would be so mentally and physically tired only at the age of 30.

Someone always has to be home, so it's either you work or he works. Luckily you both have day jobs...but then after work it is cook, clean, bath, laundry, homework, and what not. Don't forget the pick up and drop off from school, daycare, and other after school activities. It's like being a personal chauffeur.

Maybe it is do-able. To those of you who can do it, I applaud you. For me? I feel like in over-doing something, you lose a lot in the details, and something always falls apart. You can't have everything, something always suffers.